In my almost thirty years of life …yes, I am almost 30, and although I am not happy about this, I am trying hard to fake being happy about it until I am actually happy about it!… Sorry, as I was saying, over the past almost thirty years I have learned that the world I full of rules, and that these rules mean different things for different people….further to the existence of rules, it appears that there are areas of the world (both tangible and non-tangible spectrums) in which it is considered permissible to disregard rules completely.

As a mother, I like rules, and I like boundaries. Without boundaries children (and indeed adults) struggle to understand what is expected of them and find it difficult to regulate their behavior in various situations. As such, I will continue to teach my son the party line of “Rules are there for a reason, you will do what you are told and use your manners, and eat your vegetables,” and I am hoping that all other Mum’s out there will be doing the same and spread the word: swearing bad, smoking bad, manners good, vegetables good, sharing good, snatching bad….. These rules are straight forward and apply to everyone, regardless of their age, gender, religion, race or sexual preference (After all, one of the most basic of rules even says, don’t ask personal questions or make personal comments!), and based on the idea that we want to raise the next generation to be happy, safe, healthy and respectful.

The rules which govern adults, generally referred to as morals, values, legislation and acts, are in theory, more serious and ought to be more stringently followed than our childhood rules of “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.” The reason I argue that these rules remain theoretically more serious than others is due to the consequences of breaking the rules. When a child doesn’t share, their Mum might confiscate the Tonka Truck the kids are fighting over…If an adult steals an actual truck however, they might go to gaol. On paper anyway the rules which govern society appear to be stricter …. it appears that we have bigger rules, for bigger problems, which therefore require greater consequences…

Most of us believe that:

If you rob a bank, you will go to gaol.

If you steal things, you will go to gaol.

If you shoot someone, you will go to gaol.

If you rape someone, you will go to gaol.

If you beat up an old lady, you will go to gaol.

In actuality however, what really happens? Do we send the “baddies” to gaol, or does it depend on who they are, and how important the person they hurt is? I would like to believe that the world is a just place, that our legal system is blind, and that I, by following the rules, the laws, the acts, the legislation, that I will be afforded the protection of all of these systems and will be safe from other’s who may decide to break them.

I would also like to believe that if one person kills another, or hurts another, or belittles another that we ought to be equally as outraged and keen to protect the vulnerable regardless of their skin colour, economic status, gender or place of birth – however, every time I publish and article and every time I turn on the news it appears that I would be a fool to believe this.

We tell our children to think before they speak, and to respond maturely when things don’t go the way we planned. We teach them to talk through their conflicts and to never resort to violence.

Our Prime Minister however responds to an incredibly delicate and tragic situation by threatening to “shirt front” the President Putin of Russia. Mature? I think not. Helpful? I think not. A good example to the kids? I think not.

Did Mr Abbott get in trouble? Nope.

We tell our children that it is what is inside that counts, and never to judge someone based on their clothes, or skin colour or religion.

We introduced an act, The Racial Discrimination Act to remind grown us that we must ensure that Australians of all backgrounds are treated equally and have the same opportunities.

The reality however is that children now have to sing “Baa Baa Rainbow Sheep” (I grew up with my Dad keeping sheep for the freezer, they are black, white or black and white, NEVER rainbow!) Meanwhile Jacqui Lambie spends A. LOT. of time telling us that people who wear hijab, niqabs, chadors, or burqas (she doesn’t know all of these words) are “threats” to us, because of how they dress. She says that Muslims (who may or may not wear such coverings are “maniacs and depraved humans”.

Is this polite? I think not.

Is this following the rules? I think not.

Is it still wrong to judge people based on their skin color, religion or gender? Hell yes it is.

We could, I guess just write Lambie and Abbott off as idiots that speak out of school and say that they should be adhering to the basics of respect and public etiquette even if they are “big shots”, however that still leaves me wondering about why it is that crimes against women are not investigated.

Are we able to explain why it is that the laws of the land apply to most people – we can’t speed, steal, cheat, be an embezzler or discriminate, but men can kill women whenever they like – or so it appears?

And when we act outraged, people turn our outrage into accusations against us, blaming Islam, or feminists, or claiming that we don’t care about male victims of violence. Of course we (Muslims, feminists, humans) care about the male victims of female perpetrated violence, however, women are MORE at risk than me.

Women are MORE vulnerable than men. Generally speaking, women are physically smaller and less able to defend themselves against men who are larger and stronger.

MORE women are killed than men.

It is not okay to kill anyone. Ever. It is also NOT OKAY to minimise the sheer number of women killed by partners/ex partners in Australia every week. We want to protect the armed forces protecting Australia, of course. In Afghanistan 41 Aussies have died since 2001. Tragic.

In Australia 39 women have died since JANUARY 2015.

Where is the outrage? And why, are these crimes not seen as being as serious as ONE young man dying from a king hit/cowards punch in Sydney. Not to minimize his life, every life is precious, but why do we appear to care less about women victims if we are all equal, and all being held accountable to the same set of social news?

Why also is it okay to do things at a national level, when it is deemed inappropriate to do them at an individual level? If we tell our children that it is wrong to judge people based on their skin color, and that everyone is equal, why is it that we are allowed to, as a nation, turn our backs on asylum seekers and refugees because they apparently “matter less” than Australians?

My son will want answers….. so come one people…. hook me up.